Daniel Tiger made me a better parent


Despite my earlier (pre-baby) insistence that screen time would be non-existent in my household, we’ve watched plenty of the ol’ tube. We don’t have cable or television service, but we do have YouTube, Netflix, and Amazon Prime hooked up to our Roku.

This at least realizes my childhood fantasy that I could have all my favorite show seasons on VHS and show them to my kid per my own schedule without them seeing any of the shows I deemed “stupid” (e.g. ‘The Magic School Bus’ instead of ‘Ren and Stimpy’) or be troubled by pesky commercials. We’re truly living in the golden age. Also, wasn’t I an odd 4th grader? Continue reading


Top 5 Toddler Kitchen Tools. Including Skills and Recipes for your burgeoning chef

Essential Toddler Kitchen Skills and Tools

When high school ended, and I was thrust (almost literally) into the riggers of “real life,” without any skills, funds, or safety net to experiment in the kitchen. My meager 50$ per month budget could not be risked on flopped meals.Off brand, bulk food cereal, powdered milk, and 2 for 1$ frozen pot pies then it was on the bus to my minimum wage job at the airport.

When I got older, and left behind the job for a career, I splurged on two cooking classes at a culinary school in Portland, OR: Knife Essentials (Food Prep and Knife Skills) and Flavor Essentials (how to blend and use spices, when and how to add them). It was a pivotal moment for me. Nothing was un-cookable, nothing was a flop. No cuisine unattainable. My confidence soared, and I eventually I even started a food blog (Thought on a Roll).

Gourmet meals would just suddenly come together with pennies and a decent spice collection.

I realized then how unprepared my parents had left me for basic living by not allowing me into the kitchen and not teaching me any basic kitchen skills. Lacking this skill set is intimidating and overwhelming when you’re hungry most of the time. I was not going to repeat this with my own child. Schools in the US do not teach basic living skills like cooking, so I categorized kitchen skills under the job description for myself as a parent. Continue reading


Baby Love (Month 11): Diwali and Turkey

Haiku Summary:
Travel bunny hop
East to West Coast
Yay for Thanksgiving

11MonthsI’m 11 months old!

After a relatively calm October, we had to prep for a long flight first to Florida to visit baby D’s great grandma (my grandpa passed away in June, and this was the first Thanksgiving alone), then back across the country to Oregon to celebrate Thanksgiving with the rest of the family.

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Baby Love (Month 10): Pumpkins

Haiku Summary:
Halloween is fun
Dressed up like an old man
Mom laughed at me.

10monthsI’m 10 months old!

After our family trip / babymoon / anniversary, we didn’t do much in October. But we did participate in Halloween, by dressing up…eating at a Vietnamese restaurant instead of trick of treat… and then throwing a pumpkin carving party with lots of pumpkin-based foods.

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Baby Love (Month 9): Travel!

Haiku Summary:
Flying far away
Four hours cross the ocean
Lovely Hawaii


I’m 9 months old!

The ninth month was a great deal of fun. Baby D was predictable and compliant–the perfect time for a belated babymoon and to celebrate our second wedding anniversary. The flight to Hawaii was a solid 4-hours, and was PACKED with kids. I was feeling like everyone felt like Hawaii was a good idea, and we were placed every other row because only one lap infant was allowed per row (due to some availability of life saving resources). It was a good flight, if you didn’t stand up you couldn’t hear the cacophony of crying babes.

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My Top Five Gadgets (Months 0-3)

Top Gadgets

Every baby is a little different, some like this, some like that, some hate the world. The biggest question we asked in the 0-3 month range was, “what stops the crying?” seriously.


We bought *a lot* of items trying to answer this question. Not really in desperation, per se, but definitely in confusion at what would work. Let’s just say we had five different places for our son to sleep.

However, it became apparent that of all the gadgets we bought–several were of high importance for those first 3 months. Let me know! What were yours?

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Diaper Doodie: Diapers for 0-7 months

Number of Diapers for the first 7 months

For my niece’s baby shower, I did the auntie equivalent of buying socks for Christmas–I bought 6 months worth of diapers. For my own wee one, I bought 7 months worth of diapers, and as we have opened up our final baggie a mere 2 weeks after 7 months, I’ll say I have a fairly reliable system down. Continue reading


Baby Love (Month 3): Lessons

Haiku Summary:
as maternity leave ends…
separation pain.

11084602_10152808490883517_2095015502_nI’m three months old!

Month three signaled the swan song for my maternity leave, and suddenly everything felt rushed.

I dug out all my pre-Baby D research and notes on the day cares, Montessori schools, and other schools promising to both care and educate my child while I worked to pay for it. I schedule walk through after walk through, and deliberate on the the facilities. I finally choose one, and my husband joins me on an additional tour to shrug and say, “I guess.”

I waffle on returning to work. We do the math… it’s an impossibility. We exist in that sweet spot where our living expenses (including daycare) are still too much (and simultaneously not enough) for me to quit. I think this is called “golden handcuffs” or my job, like it or not, is too good to quit. In desperation, I do the math on part-time…but no, now the cost of part-time daycare plus our expenses makes working no longer worthwhile. I would be working for the amusement of employment alone at that point.

If I quit my job, baby D would get a full time parent. Someone who knows all his buttons and is expressly interested in his personal well being above most any other human on the planet.

But…if I quit my job, baby D also no longer has parents with the financial availability to travel to the rest of his family located in the pacific northwest and of Tamil Nadu, India. He’d exist in a bubble of pictures and Skype. Sure, family could come to us…but if my grandfather in Florida is any indication, that is a one-sided effort and once every four years was never enough.

Baby D’s parents waited until everyone was quite old before asking him to join the family, and now 24-hours of plane travel takes its toll on grandparents in their 60’s.
The selfishness of wanting to quit comes to light, and sadly I sign the forms at the school we’ve chosen. “They teach baby sign language and he’ll learn to be more social.” I say with a smile, adding, “Oh and Mandarin and Spanish too, when he’s older.”

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Baby Love (Month 2): Light!

Haiku Summary:
baby smiling coo
some tummy time exercise
small arms reach and flail

5x7I’m two months old!

Month two is an entirely different world. Suddenly your night is broken into two, four-hour segments…his eyes focus. He smiles. Your fake “achooo!” is funny. You’re a source of joy. This is what you signed up for.

Once we figured out he wasn’t getting enough milk from me alone and started supplementing, he basically stopped crying. He didn’t go through a “purple crying” or “colic” phase, rather he became “predictable.” His cries meant one of three things:

  1. I’m pretty frustrated that I’m still awake—also, I don’t want to sleep
  2. I told them 30 seconds ago I was hungry…omg, they are starving me! CALL CHILD SERVICES!!!
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Baby Love (Month 1): Survived!

Haiku Summary:
Fog consumes all;
his eyes focus, small smile
encompassing love


The first two weeks after delivery are the slowest, and the first month is really difficult. Your little miracle of life is the helpless embodiment of a To Do list. Though, as you start to leave this time in your past, it stops feeling so intense. What percentage of your life is two weeks, really? How well do you remember most two week segments? Some details recalled with an “Oh ya!” but only if the memory is specifically triggered. This is the same. Both sadly and happily, the memory is altered by time and new experience.

The amnesia of this time is helped along by the fact you’re scrambling to implement all the techniques you so confidently read about, the complete lack of decent sleep, and when your baby eyes suddenly focus on yours and he smiles.
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Postpartum Toolkit

Sorry, environment.

As you can imagine, the aftermath of passing an entire human out of your body is quite intense. My own labor and delivery lasted a mere 5 hours, so postpartum was the vast majority of my entry into motherhood. I was very concerned with postpartum, and had purchased all sorts of things in preparation for it.


I spent a solid week recovering from my delivery–which is pretty quick. Though, I had made sure I had all the goodies. The hospital *may* give you some of these, but I was a little surprised when some people said they didn’t receive some/any of these items while recovering! I can only imagine their hospital had a very strict profit margin to meet.

What things helped you? What did your hospital provide?

Here is one week worth of supplies (double as necessary):
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